Lexie: [narrating] Grief may be a thing we all have in common, but it looks different on everyone. Mark: It isn't just death we have to grieve. It's life. It's loss. It's change. Alex: And when we wonder why it has to suck so much sometimes, has to hurt so bad. The thing we gotta try to remember is that it can turn on a dime. Izzie: That's how you stay alive. When it hurts so much you can't breathe, that's how you survive. Derek: By remembering that one day, somehow, impossibly, you won't feel this way. It won't hurt this much. Bailey: Grief comes in its own time for everyone, in its own way. Owen: So the best we can do, the best anyone can do, is try for honesty. Meredith: The really crappy thing, the very worst part of grief is that you can't control it. Arizona: The best we can do is try to let ourselves feel it when it comes. Callie: And let it go when we can. Meredith: The very worst part is that the minute you think you're past it, it starts all over again. Cristina: And always, every time, it takes your breath away. Meredith: There are five stages of grief. They look different on all of us, but there are always five. Alex: Denial. Derek: Anger. Bailey: Bargaining. Lexie: Depression. Richard: Acceptance.
Alex: What is this? Izzie: Take off your pants. Alex: Iz, it's a... Izzie: Be my husband, get undressed, get into bed and hold me. I don't know what you're so mad about and I don't know what you're scared of because you won't talk to me. But, I'm scared too Alex. And I can't... if you won't... If we're gonna have any chance at a life together then I need you to. Please... Alex: You died in my arms. You died in my arms! You freakin died, and then you left instructions that I wasn't allowed to save your life. You wanna know what I'm scared of? I'm scared of everything. I'm scared to move. I'm scared to breathe. I'm scared to touch you. I can't lose you. I won't survive. And that's your fault. You made me love you, you made me let you in. And then you freaking died in my arms.