Lexie: [narrating] Grief may be a thing we all have in common, but it looks different on everyone. Mark: It isn't just death we have to grieve. It's life. It's loss. It's change. Alex: And when we wonder why it has to suck so much sometimes, has to hurt so bad. The thing we gotta try to remember is that it can turn on a dime. Izzie: That's how you stay alive. When it hurts so much you can't breathe, that's how you survive. Derek: By remembering that one day, somehow, impossibly, you won't feel this way. It won't hurt this much. Bailey: Grief comes in its own time for everyone, in its own way. Owen: So the best we can do, the best anyone can do, is try for honesty. Meredith: The really crappy thing, the very worst part of grief is that you can't control it. Arizona: The best we can do is try to let ourselves feel it when it comes. Callie: And let it go when we can. Meredith: The very worst part is that the minute you think you're past it, it starts all over again. Cristina: And always, every time, it takes your breath away. Meredith: There are five stages of grief. They look different on all of us, but there are always five. Alex: Denial. Derek: Anger. Bailey: Bargaining. Lexie: Depression. Richard: Acceptance.
Ask most people what they want out of life and the answer is simple - to be happy. Maybe it's this expectation though of wanting to be happy that just keeps us from ever getting there. Maybe the more we try to will ourselves to state's of bliss, the more confused we get - to the point where we don't recognize ourselves. Instead we just keep smiling - trying to be the happy people we wish we were. Until it eventually hits us, it's been there all along. Not in our dreams or our hopes but in the known, the comfortable, the familiar.